how 2 gf: dubiety

[shadowDOESrock]

okay so
I met this totally cute girl and she's degreeing in computer science and oh my god she's cute.

It just so happens she's going to the same school (college) and I dont know where how why


And that's all I found out in 10 Minutes. Now it's time to stalk.

[jkid101094]

Now it's time to stalk.

Contrary to popular belief women don't like this.

[Elija2]

Act natural.

Unless stalking girls is natural to you, then don't act natural.

[shadowDOESrock]

Contrary to popular belief women don't like this.

No way.

Act natural.

Unless stalking girls is natural to you, then don't act natural.

Yep, time to not act natural.

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srs though, I have no social skills lol

[Elija2]

srs though, I have no social skills lol

Pretend that real life is an internet forum, then you'll have tons of social skills.

[shadowDOESrock]

Pretend that real life is an internet forum, then you'll have tons of social skills.

dick jokes dont work too well in real life

[jkid101094]

Don't you think that this is the worst place to be asking about something like this? I mean, most of us are only still here because we have no real life friends.

[Elija2]

Don't you think that this is the worst place to be asking about something like this? I mean, most of us are only still here because we have no real life friends.

Hey, speak for yourself.

[shadowDOESrock]

Oh, yeah, no - This is all lighthearted, self-aware, pseudo-commentary if you will.

I usually just always get shot down because I take forever to actually ask out.
Or I unintentionally friendzone and only realise afterwards what happened.

It's more of a "I hate everyone" than a lack of social skills. Socially awkward, I guess.

Like, I'm the guy who wants to go a H.R Giger exhibition at a museum, watches "arthouse" movies and mostly listens to music no one else listens to - and I'm not doing University, so basically there's no one who would be into these things, just Hip-Hop / Pop / EDM / #Weed / Paranormal Activity / Call of Duty-ians.

[Elija2]

It doesn't matter if you don't have much in common, it only matters that you enjoy spending time together.

Just focus on being her friend and not someone that just wants to get in her pants.

[shadowDOESrock]

It doesn't matter if you don't have much in common, it only matters that you enjoy spending time together.

See, this is the part where it doesnt click. Like, I'm more on the look out for a relationship than just a friend. (Although I dont mind more friends). But, I can't see that working for a prolonged time...

[Elija2]

See, this is the part where it doesnt click. Like, I'm more on the look out for a relationship than just a friend. (Although I dont mind more friends). But, I can't see that working for a prolonged time...

So you'll lose interest in her if you find out that she's not interested in a relationship? That's kinda mean.

[Maddiekinns]

okay so
I met this totally cute girl and she's degreeing in computer science and oh my god she's cute.

It just so happens she's going to the same school (college) and I dont know where how why


And that's all I found out in 10 Minutes. Now it's time to stalk.

I have IRL friends (I think) AND I'm a girl so lemme help?

Okay so you met her, good. Now it's time to strike up conversation; try talking to her about her degree plan. Just ask her about it. "Do you like it so far?" "How is the school work?" "Jobs?" you know, that deal. If she's comfortable with talking she'd answer nicely. Usually true geeky girls are up for conversation. The true ones... Anywho, you have to talk, you won't get anywhere whatsoever if you don't talk. You can't let your social insecurities get to you in a situation like this; you gotta put them aside and just go for it. You won't always win, but it helps to get yourself out there because you will win eventually.

[shadowDOESrock]

So you'll lose interest in her if you find out that she's not interested in a relationship? That's kinda mean.

Thaaaaat is not what I intended to say.

I have IRL friends (I think) AND I'm a girl so lemme help?

Okay so you met her, good. Now it's time to strike up conversation; try talking to her about her degree plan. Just ask her about it. "Do you like it so far?" "How is the school work?" "Jobs?" you know, that deal. If she's comfortable with talking she'd answer nicely. Usually true geeky girls are up for conversation. The true ones... Anywho, you have to talk, you won't get anywhere whatsoever if you don't talk. You can't let your social insecurities get to you in a situation like this; you gotta put them aside and just go for it. You won't always win, but it helps to get yourself out there because you will win eventually.

I'll do just that - was kinda planning to. Although that last line is encouraging.
We need more Maddiekinns on here.

[Maddiekinns]

Thaaaaat is not what I intended to say.



I'll do just that - was kinda planning to. Although that last line is encouraging.
We need more Maddiekinns on here.

;u;

[Hakudamashi]

I'll do just that - was kinda planning to. Although that last line is encouraging.
We need more Maddiekinns on here.

It was only encouraging cause she has a vagina.

[shadowDOESrock]

It was only encouraging cause she has a vagina.

I find that to be personally insulting, especially since I said something very similar to you in the previous topic.

[Hakudamashi]

Are you saying you don't find vagina encouraging?

[Maddiekinns]

Are you saying you don't find vagina encouraging?

lmao

[shadowDOESrock]

I gave up.





...butimontosomethingelse lol

Okay, just to let y'all know, I only gave up because I knew enough to know that no.

[jkid101094]

There's only room for one Goddess in your lives anyway.

[Hakudamashi]

Okay, just to let y'all know, I only gave up because I knew enough to know that no.

What does that even mean?

[Elija2]

What does that even mean?

I think he's saying that he gave up because he knew he never stood a chance.

[shadowDOESrock]

I think he's saying that he gave up because he knew he never stood a chance.

That.

[Meme Master Flex]

make it obvious that you want to be in a relationship with her, but don't force yourself too hard

if you come off as a friend, that's the way she'll see you

don't force it

don't force it

don't fucking force it

you force it, friendzone, you wait too long, friendzone, you act like a friend, well, you know.

[Hakudamashi]

Thanks Vivian.

[Elija2]

make it obvious that you want to be in a relationship with her, but don't force yourself too hard

if you come off as a friend, that's the way she'll see you

don't force it

don't force it

don't fucking force it

you force it, friendzone, you wait too long, friendzone, you act like a friend, well, you know.

Many relationships start as friendships. Being someone's friend doesn't automatically lock you out of being a potential love interest.

[jkid101094]

And then people ask me why I don't care about relationships.

[Hakudamashi]

Many relationships start as friendships. Being someone's friend doesn't automatically lock you out of being a potential love interest.

kek.

[Elija2]

kek.

What is that supposed to mean?

[Hakudamashi]

Whatever you want it to mean baby.

[Elija2]

Haku, are you hitting on me?

[Hakudamashi]

Only if you want it.

[Elija2]

I want it.

[Meme Master Flex]

Many relationships start as friendships. Being someone's friend doesn't automatically lock you out of being a potential love interest.

never said it did, i said acting too much like a friend will make it so that they see you like a friend, instead of an intrest

[Elija2]

never said it did, i said acting too much like a friend will make it so that they see you like a friend, instead of an intrest

What's the difference between acting like a friend and acting like a love interest?

[shadowDOESrock]

What's the difference between acting like a friend and acting like a love interest?

This.

[Meme Master Flex]

What's the difference between acting like a friend and acting like a love interest?

You can act like a friend but still be seen as a love interest, I mean don't white knight and expect a reward at the end of the day because "you're a nice guy". If you're friends with someone because you wanted to be in a relationship and you're stuck, then that's your fault. You presented yourself as a friend, instead of a partner. I mean, sure, you can be the person's best friend for years and get into a relationship with them, but it'll probably crash and burn because it'll be awkward to see your friend in that light. Life isn't some kind of Japanese weeaboo trash where if you confess you automatically get who you want to be with. I wish I could explain better, but the best way I can say it is be flirty as compared to being there for them always.


[sorry for the roundabout explanation]

[Elija2]

If you're white knighting someone, you're not really acting like a friend.

Being flirty with someone can be off-putting if they don't see you as a romantic interest. It can be seen as coming on too strong.

[Meme Master Flex]

If you're white knighting someone, you're not really acting like a friend.

Being flirty with someone can be off-putting if they don't see you as a romantic interest. It can be seen as coming on too strong.

yes and this varies between person, it's just how i see things and how it works for me, this isn't fact or anything. honestly i'm unintentionally flirty around females and i've only realized that now, it's also the reason why some people find me annoying also because i yell and scream a lot

really just be yourself as cliche as that is

[Meme Master Flex]

also i don't mean white knight like actually white knighting, i mean being too much of a friend

[Elija2]

Well Kyo, I hope you learned a thing or two on how to pick up girls from us random nerds on the internet.

[Hakudamashi]

We're not random, we're all buddies here.

[dreamcasthime]

yes and this varies between person, it's just how i see things and how it works for me, this isn't fact or anything. honestly i'm unintentionally flirty around females and i've only realized that now, it's also the reason why some people find me annoying also because i yell and scream a lot

really just be yourself as cliche as that is

^ This. Some people do require being kinda flirty, but just as many work out by actually building up as a friend. Nonetheless, as he said, just be yourself really. I didn't get Alex by just being obnoxious or acting like someone else. I'm just me and that's all it takes. If you have to act like someone you aren't to get a girlfriend/boyfriend, then they're someone not worth being with.