So this girl I have been hanging out likes me and I like her... but I keep telling her we can't date because I don't want to ruin the friendship we have built over the years (which is true)... of course this upset her and I feel like a jerk... another reason I won't date her (didn't tell her this) is because I don't want to risk falling into temptation and sleeping with her (Religious thing... trying to wait until marriage)... am I a jerk for turning her down?
And yea I have a feeling asking Sonic Zone is almost as bad as asking /b/ lol
Quote from: Proto_Blaze on September 27, 2011, 02:54:48 PM
So this girl I have been hanging out likes me and I like her... but I keep telling her we can't date because I don't want to ruin the friendship we have built over the years (which is true)... of course this upset her and I feel like a jerk... another reason I won't date her (didn't tell her this) is because I don't want to risk falling into temptation and sleeping with her (Religious thing... trying to wait until marriage)... am I a jerk for turning her down?
And yea I have a feeling asking Sonic Zone is almost as bad as asking /b/ lol
I don't think that's a bad thing. I just think that you should think it over, and then maybe talk to her about it?
Quote from: Tana~ on September 27, 2011, 02:59:53 PM
I don't think that's a bad thing. I just think that you should think it over, and then maybe talk to her about it?
Talking to her about it makes things worse somehow :-(
Quote from: Tana~ on September 27, 2011, 02:59:53 PM
I don't think that's a bad thing. I just think that you should think it over.
This. I'm abstinent too. If you don't trust that you can fight the urge it's better off you too don't do anything drastic like that. In the end it should all come down to this. Do you think she's the kind of person who'll hate your guts when you break up and suck your cock every time she gets the chance? Or do you think she'll be understanding and push you in the right direction if she thinks you're going off course? If the later is true, and only if, then I say give it a shot. Tana and I dated and we're still friends.
Quote from: jkid101094 on September 27, 2011, 03:06:08 PM
This. I'm abstinent too. If you don't trust that you can fight the urge it's better off you too don't do anything drastic like that. In the end it should all come down to this. Do you think she's the kind of person who'll hate your guts when you break up and suck your cock every time she gets the chance? Or do you think she'll be understanding and push you in the right direction if she thinks you're going off course? If the later is true, and only if, then I say give it a shot. Tana and I dated and we're still friends.
I learned a new lesson in life... never tell the girl that likes you to give your friend a try... worst decision of the night
Quote from: Proto_Blaze on September 27, 2011, 03:08:55 PM
I learned a new lesson in life... never tell the girl that likes you to give your friend a try... worst decision of the night
Ouch...I'm sorry to hear that, buddy. =\
There's a reason I stopped dating white girls... to complex and dramatic
Quote from: Proto_Blaze on September 27, 2011, 03:12:20 PM
There's a reason I stopped dating white girls... to complex and dramatic
Ummm....
Quote from: Tana~ on September 27, 2011, 03:14:23 PM
Ummm....
lol I know how it sounds... but I have only had issues with white girls... all other races never gave me problems when dating them... though they are great friends
Quote from: Proto_Blaze on September 27, 2011, 03:16:50 PM
lol I know how it sounds... but I have only had issues with white girls... all other races never gave me problems when dating them... though they are great friends
I feel that too, but I still wouldn't say what you did. :l
Quote from: Proto_Blaze on September 27, 2011, 03:16:50 PM
lol I know how it sounds... but I have only had issues with white girls... all other races never gave me problems when dating them... though they are great friends
...the hell?
\youre black?
Quote from: Proto_Blaze on September 27, 2011, 02:54:48 PM
So this girl I have been hanging out likes me and I like her... but I keep telling her we can't date because I don't want to ruin the friendship we have built over the years (which is true)... of course this upset her and I feel like a jerk... another reason I won't date her (didn't tell her this) is because I don't want to risk falling into temptation and sleeping with her (Religious thing... trying to wait until marriage)... am I a jerk for turning her down?
And yea I have a feeling asking Sonic Zone is almost as bad as asking /b/ lol
Quote from: Proto_Blaze on September 27, 2011, 03:01:57 PM
Talking to her about it makes things worse somehow :-(
Hate to be the bearer of bad news here, but
unfortunately I know exactly how you feel. My best advice is patch things up and move on. She's not the only one in the world, and If she hates your guts because you wont date her, it could be a maturity/hormone issue.
More likely is she's just lonely, when people don't feel loved, they grow quite attached to anyone who will show them compassion,
this problem is continually growing worse as households are plagued by broken families, bullying, and the like.
When this happens the person can become clingy, she probably called you continually for a few days, maybe even weeks after you told her no.
Just remember you can't always be the one to fix everything, Healing takes time, back off for a bit, then try your best to patch things up.
I am Puerto Rican... and I mean no offense to white girls. I just have a bad history... one tried to get me arrested because I avoided her (hmm wonder why), one stalked the hell out of me, one tried to rape me and then i caught her on webcam dancing naked in front of middle school kids... bad luck is bad... and all my experience with them... so I tend to avoid dating them now
What is this i dont even
I know what you mean about trying to wait until marriage, and I'm not even religious...it's just the morals I grew up with my whole life, lol.
I wanna wait, but my bf just keeps edging and edging and pushing and pushing.
He makes the jokes (but I know there's a serious tone behind them) about sex, and I just keep shrugging it off. I'm honestly terrified of it, as much as I joke about it...Sure, the first time won't be bad for the guy, but you guys aren't having your insides torn apart by something that shouldn't naturally fit there. B(
Assuming she's the one you told to "give your friend a try", I'd first give her some space and time to cool off...if she really likes you and cares, she'll forgive you...
Then I would pull her off to the side and tell her how I feel. Don't give her a chance to but in (in a nice way...be like "Before you say anything let me speak") and tell her to think over it. Don't give her a chance to reply or anything, just let her think over it.
If she really cares, it should work out. If she just wants to get upset and/or angry, then I would say it isn't worth it...
Quote from: Proto_Blaze on September 27, 2011, 03:25:49 PM
I am Puerto Rican... and I mean no offense to white girls. I just have a bad history... one tried to get me arrested because I avoided her (hmm wonder why), one stalked the hell out of me, one tried to rape me and then i caught her on webcam dancing naked in front of middle school kids... bad luck is bad... and all my experience with them... so I tend to avoid dating them now
Believe it or not, there are still some white girls with their heads screwed on...somewhat.
/sort-of example? lol
But yeah. No offense taken. xD
Quote from: Dracoslythe on September 27, 2011, 03:31:43 PM
I know what you mean about trying to wait until marriage, and I'm not even religious...it's just the morals I grew up with my whole life, lol.
I wanna wait, but my bf just keeps edging and edging and pushing and pushing.
He makes the jokes (but I know there's a serious tone behind them) about sex, and I just keep shrugging it off. I'm honestly terrified of it, as much as I joke about it...Sure, the first time won't be bad for the guy, but you guys aren't having your insides torn apart by something that shouldn't naturally fit there. B(
Assuming she's the one you told to "give your friend a try", I'd first give her some space and time to cool off...if she really likes you and cares, she'll forgive you...
Then I would pull her off to the side and tell her how I feel. Don't give her a chance to but in (in a nice way...be like "Before you say anything let me speak") and tell her to think over it. Don't give her a chance to reply or anything, just let her think over it.
If she really cares, it should work out. If she just wants to get upset and/or angry, then I would say it isn't worth it...
Believe it or not, there are still some white girls with their heads screwed on...somewhat.
/sort-of example? lol
But yeah. No offense taken. xD
I do care for her... but when it comes down to it... I just can't go through with it... I like being her friend (been best buds for 10 years)... yea I have been taking notice of her since I graduated high school... but I can't risk ruining it. And I like someone else that I refuse to date as well... I just wanna be single and have friends
And Draco... you are actually one of the few white girls that I view as freaking epic dating material, but I don't do long distance dating so enjoy the free compliment xD